Many of you have heard about the “Law of Attraction”. It’s been around forever but it became popular with the general public due to a book called The Secret. Unfortunately, many people took this idea to mean that if you sat around and wished for something, it would just come true. The whole concept seemed like some sort of mystical, made up thing.

The fact is that the law of Attraction is a very real thing. It’s been called many things including The Power of Positive thinking. Make no mistake. This idea isn’t simply to just have an optimistic outlook. It’s a lot more powerful than that. The basic idea of all of this is that your thoughts attract and shape your life. What you are thinking about is what you’re drawing or attracting to you and your life.

Here’s how I like to think of it and how I explain it to my clients. Have you ever heard of something new before and then suddenly that thing seems to appear everywhere? For example, you hear the name of a color that you’ve never heard of before. Suddenly you see the color on a billboard and the name of the color in a magazine article. Then your friend brings it up in conversation. This isn’t happening because of something mystical. This is happening because now that you’ve heard of it, you’re focusing on it. Once something is on your mind, you’re paying attention to it. Once you’re paying attention to it, you notice it whenever it comes up in your radar.

This works the same way in your dating life. I just started reading a book called Meeting Your Half Orange by Amy Spencer. The book is about using the power of positive thinking/law of attraction to find the right (for you) romantic partner. She says that “We attract what we think about, focus on, and feel.” Remember this. If your thoughts are that you’re not attractive enough to find someone or that you’re too old or that all of the good ones are taken, you will be completely right. If your thoughts are that dating is easy and that it won’t be problem and there are lots of great people out there, you’ll find that special someone. Positive thoughts affect your entire demeanor. When someone feels good about him or herself, they exude that confidence and people feel good being around them. That attracts very nice people into your life. Think about the woman you see out somewhere who’s smiling and laughing. She looks pretty and happy. The woman who’s depressed, will have a crease between her eyes and hunched shoulders. Why would anyone want to be around that person?

Here’s an example from my own life. When I decided that it was time for me to start dating again, I met someone pretty quickly. He’s a really, really great guy. I couldn’t be happier. I didn’t think it would be a problem. I sincerely believe that there are single people at every stage of life, looking to meet someone. There aren’t millions of them. There are billions of them. My two closest friends are single. They both feel that they’re too old and that all of the good ones are taken. Both of these women have a lot going for them and they’re very pretty. The one who refuses to see life any other way, hasn’t met one person since she broke up with her last boyfriend. She’s just convinced that there’s no one out there. The other friend had the same thoughts but she changed her mind. She decided to go online. At first, she thought it was terrible and that there’s just no one out there. Some things started changing for her and she started to see that there were a lot of “nice” guys out there that she could see herself being friends with. She started having a good feeling about it and just started feeling good about herself and her life. One month later, she told me that it’s unbelievable how many great, single guys are out there. Her outlook changed and then her life changed.

It works. Think of all of the great things that you have going for you, hold your head high, and be open to finding your perfect match.