As a coach, I often hear the same issues over and over again. A common one is “I can’t find the right guy.” I have many clients both male and female who are looking for “the one”. I’m a firm believer in timing. You need to be open to finding love but I also believe that you need to know what your looking for and the things that might prevent you from getting what you want. I find this quest to be no different than searching for the right career. You might try out some jobs and think you want to do one type of thing for a living but after you give it a shot, you realize that it’s not for you. You might try out a job and then something different might be presented to you. It might be something you’ve never thought of. You give it a shot and it turns out to be the perfect fit. One thing is for sure once you have an idea of what you’re looking for, you’re going to have to be armed and ready with the appropriate skills so that you know what you’re doing. If you want to make money in your chosen field, you might do something like go to school and take classes in a specific area so that you have the tools you need to succeed in your new (or higher level) area of work.

Finding the man of your dreams is really no different. If you know what you want and you feel that you’re meeting the wrong men, it might be time to update your skills. A coach can help you to help yourself. A coach will keep you focused. One of the things that I like to do is to recommend books to my clients. Food for thought, so to speak. I’ve ready many books about dating, men, women, love. (I’ve ready plenty of books for men on dating women as well. Men need to find the right one too you know. )

About 6 months ago, I read Patti Stanger’s book (Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate). Patti is the Millionaire Matchmaker. Her Bravo show is highly enterntaining. The book looks cheesy. Most dating books are sort of embarrassing. But, I can tell you that the information in there is great. Patti knows her stuff. There’s a reason she gets paid the big bucks. Read Patti’s book and you will learn what you need to do to find the marrying kind of guy and not some player. You want to meet the right guy, not just any guy. Patti’s tips can help you do that. I highly recommend this book. You can buy it right from my site by going to the Reading Annex.

The second book I recommend is something that I’m reading now. It’s by Steve Harvey. It’s called Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man. One of my closest friends recommended this book. She’s getting herself armed and ready because she wants to go out and date the right way and she doesn’t want to waste her time. She’s a smart girl. She read the Patti Stanger book and the Steve Harvey.

Act Like a Lady is fantastic because you get a no BS man’s perspective. He has chapters on such topics as Questions to Ask Before Getting in Too Deep, How to Get the Ring, and my personal pet peeve, “Mama’s Boys”.

Are you ready to get out there? Do you want someone to help you to help yourself? You know where to find me.

xoxo Tracy